Before Boundaries: What You Really Need to Know About Parents with BPD or NPD

If you've ever tried to set a boundary with a parent who has narcissistic or borderline traits—and watched it fall apart in record time—you’re not alone.

Maybe you rehearsed what to say. Maybe you finally got the courage to ask for space, or to say no, or to speak up.

And then... they flipped it on you.
Suddenly you were the bad guy.
The ungrateful one. The selfish one.

You left the conversation questioning yourself, full of guilt, feeling like it’s just not worth it to try again.

This is what it’s like to grow up in a dysfunctional family with emotionally immature parents. And this is exactly why boundaries don’t work until you understand what that really means.

That’s why I created Before Boundaries—a mini-course that gives you the essential knowledge you need before you even try to set a boundary with a parent who may have borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.

Because the truth is, you can’t create emotional safety with someone who thrives on emotional manipulation.

But you can learn how to protect your peace—and take your power back.

What You’ll Learn Inside Before Boundaries

Before Boundaries is not a generic crash course on setting limits. It’s specifically designed for adult children of toxic parents, like you—who have tried everything, only to feel like nothing ever sticks.

Here’s what you get:

A video training (with me!)
I’ll walk you through the core traits of BPD and NPD that show up in parenting—so you can stop feeling blindsided when your parent responds with guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or rage. Once you understand why they behave the way they do, you’ll be able to make more realistic goals for the boundaries you set with them.

A guided workbook + worksheets
I’ll help you reflect on how these dynamics show up in your relationship with your parent, using thoughtful prompts and two powerful worksheets that help you tailor what you’re learning to your real-life experience.
Because this isn’t just about intellectually knowing something—it’s about being able to apply it to your life.

This Isn’t Just a Course. It’s the Foundation for Change.

Trying to set boundaries without understanding the psychological patterns at play is like trying to fix a leaky roof during a storm—you’ll always feel one step behind.

But once you know what you’re dealing with, you can stop reacting from fear, guilt, or confusion—and start responding from clarity, strength, and self-respect.

You’ll begin to:

• Stop blaming yourself for how your parent behaves

• Spot emotional manipulation

• Understand why your parent pushes back against your boundaries

• Lay the groundwork for boundaries that actually hold

You Deserve Peace. Let's Make It Happen.

If you’ve been stuck in cycles of guilt, doubt, and emotional exhaustion with a parent who has BPD or NPD traits, this is your starting point.

You deserve to stop living on edge.
You deserve to stop feeling like you’re the problem.
You deserve relationships where your reality is respected.

Before Boundaries is your first step toward that life.
It’s short and packed with the clarity you’ve been needing.
And, it's a pay-what-you-can course which means there are no financial barriers to get in your way.

Learn more about the course by clicking here.