Before You’re Ready to Set Boundaries with Your BPD or NPD Parent

If you’ve ever tried to set a boundary with your emotionally immature parent—and it completely backfired—you’re not alone.

Maybe you finally worked up the courage to say no…
To ask for space…
To tell them how their behavior was affecting you…

And instead of being heard, you got hit with guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or explosive rage.
Suddenly you were the selfish one. The ungrateful one. The problem.

You left the conversation more confused and exhausted than before—wondering, “Am I the problem?”
Spoiler: You’re not.

But if you grew up in a dysfunctional family where boundaries were never respected, trying to set them now can feel impossible.

That’s exactly why I created Pre-Boundaries: The Step That Comes First—a short, high-impact course designed for adult children of toxic parents who are ready to stop blaming themselves and start protecting their peace.

Boundaries Don’t Work If You Don’t Know What You’re Dealing With

Setting boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality traits isn’t like setting boundaries with anyone else.

They push back.
They weaponize your words.
They make you question your own reality.

That’s not because you’re doing it wrong. It’s because no one taught you what setting boundaries with a toxic parent actually requires.

Pre-Boundaries gives you the essential foundation—so you don’t walk into yet another emotional ambush unprepared.

What You’ll Learn Inside Pre-Boundaries

This isn’t a generic lesson on how to say “no.”
It’s a targeted, trauma-informed breakdown of the specific dynamics that make setting boundaries with BPD and NPD parents so difficult—and how to start shifting that pattern.

Here’s what’s included:

A Video Lesson with Me

I’ll walk you through the core traits of borderline and narcissistic personality disorders—and how they show up in parenting—so you can stop being blindsided by your parent’s emotional volatility. Once you know what’s really going on, you’ll be able to set boundaries that match reality, not the version of your parent you wish they could be.

A Guided Workbook

This isn’t about theory—it’s about action. The workbook walks you through reflective prompts to help you recognize emotional manipulation, identify the dynamics in your relationship, and begin laying the groundwork for boundaries that stick.

Why This Matters

Trying to set boundaries without understanding emotionally immature parents is like trying to defuse a bomb with no instructions.

You keep hoping this time will be different…
You walk away from conversations feeling worse…
You second-guess yourself constantly…
And you start to wonder if setting boundaries even works at all.

It does.
But only when you stop using tools that were never designed for your situation—and start using ones that are.

Ready to Stop Feeling Like the Problem?

If you’re tired of feeling anxious every time your phone buzzes…
If you’re sick of the guilt spirals that show up after every conversation…
If you’re desperate to feel calm in a relationship that’s only ever felt chaotic…

Pre-Boundaries is your next right step.

It’s short.
It’s powerful.
And you can complete it in about an hour—and feel clearer, more grounded, and more empowered by the end of the day.

You deserve peace. Let’s build the foundation for it—together.

Learn more about Pre-Boundaries: The Step That Comes First and get instant access now: confidentboundaries.com/pre-boundaries