Are you completely overwhelmed with the stress of dealing with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder?

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  • Learn how to set boundaries with BPD and NPD parents
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  • Access the support of a community who gets what you're dealing with because they're dealing with it too
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And Start Taking Back Control of Your Life.

Join the Confident Boundaries Online Community and get started now.

  • Learn how to set boundaries with BPD and NPD parents
  • Get instant access to expert-led resources from a Therapist + Coach with over a decade of experience
  • Access the support of a community who gets what you're dealing with because they're dealing with it too
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What's waiting for you inside the community...

LET ME GUESS...

You’ve tried setting boundaries, but they never seem to stick. Your parent ignores them, pushes back, or makes you feel guilty for even trying. You're constantly walking on eggshells, feeling like your doomed to live in this reality forever.

And you've probably found yourself:

  • Replaying conversations in your head, blaming yourself for not handling things better.
  • Feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, nothing ever changes.
  • Searching for answers for hours online, hoping to find something—anything—that makes this easier.

Of course you feel stuck, exhausted, and overwhelmed (and maybe even a little bit hopeless—like no matter what you try, nothing will ever change). Dealing with a parent who constantly steamrolls your boundaries will make anyone feel that way.

But here’s the thing: you can change this dynamic, set boundaries, and take back control of your life—even if it feels impossible right now.  

Look- change doesn’t require perfection or endless amounts of energy (thankfully!)


Change requires a willingness to start and keep moving forward just one step at a time. The chaos in your life is why you need to do something different now, not a reason to keep waiting for things to feel easier.

This community is here to walk with you through the chaos, giving you the tools and support you need to create real, lasting change—even when it feels impossible.

It’s not about doing everything perfectly. It’s about showing up for yourself, one small step at a time, and building the life you deserve. You are far more capable than you realize, and there's no better time than now to prove it to yourself.

COUNT ME IN!

i know you're Thinking: 

  • "I've already read all the books, I've been to therapy, I've tried everything."
  • “You don't know my parent. Boundaries just don't work.”
  • “I’m too exhausted and overwhelmed to do anything else.”

But imagine if...

  • You felt confident setting boundaries—no more second-guessing yourself.
  • You had a clear, actionable plan for handling tough moments (with even the most difficult parents), leaving you feeling prepared instead of overwhelmed.
  • You finally broke free from the cycle of guilt, blame, and emotional exhaustion that’s been ruling your life for years. 

This community is not just a place to learn—it’s a place to grow, heal, and take back control of your life.

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But imagine if...

  • You felt confident setting boundaries—no more second-guessing or guilt getting in your way.
  • You had a clear, actionable plan for handling tough moments with your parent, leaving you feeling prepared instead of overwhelmed.
  • You finally broke free from the cycle of guilt, blame, and emotional exhaustion that’s been ruling your life for years. 

This community is not just a place to learn—it’s a place to grow, heal, and take back control of your life.

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Ok, Let's do this!

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You don't have to keep wasting hours of your life searching online for answers only to feel just as stuck.

 

Let’s be honest—there’s a lot of bad advice out there. And even the good advice can be so nuanced that it’s often difficult to apply to your own life.

You don't have to keep wasting hours of your life searching online for answers only to feel just as stuck.

Let’s be honest—there’s a lot of bad advice out there. And even the good advice can be so nuanced that it’s often difficult to apply to your own life.

BUT, WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THAT It doesn't have to be this hard?

I've literally built my entire career around helping people navigate their dysfunctional family relationships and take back control of their lives.

And after years of learning how to navigate these challenges myself (did I mention I grew up with a narcissist parent?) and teaching my therapy and coaching clients how to do so as well, I’ve come to realize something- what most people who grew up with a BPD or NPD parent need is a supportive space where they can feel seen, understood, and guided through actionable strategies for setting boundaries with their parents.

Imagine a world where you could dramatically reduce the stress, the self-doubt, the emotional exhaustion...and actually break free from the cycle of guilt and confusion.

This community is here to help you create that reality for yourself—providing you with the support and resources you need to confidently navigate through the chaos.

It's your one-stop shop for learning how to break this toxic cycle with support and encouragement along the way.

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You don’t need more noise—you need a clear path forward. And validation that you're on the right path.

INTRODUCING...

In the Confident Boundaries Online Community, you’ll find the tools, support, and encouragement you need to confidently set boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent.

YES, I NEED THIS!

HERE'S WHAT you'll find INSIDE:

THE BOUNDARIES ROADMAP ONLINE COURSE

All members of the Confident Boundary Online Community receive instant access to my self-guided course, The Boundaries Roadmap. This is the step-by-step plan for effectively setting boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder that I have taught to hundreds of therapy and coaching clients. The course is exclusively available to members of this community.

Support from other people who get it

In this community, you'll finally be able to connect with other people who are navigating a relationship with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. You'll see that even though you may feel crazy at times, you're not. While you might be the black sheep in your family, you're certainly not the black sheep in this community. Everyone here gets it and is rooting for you every step of the way.

LIVE Workshops

On the third Thursday of each month from 12-1pm pacific time, I host a LIVE workshop on topics like going low-contact or no-contact with BPD or NPD parents and healing from the chaos of these complicated relationships. Attend live to participate and ask questions or watch the recording when it works with your schedule. As a member of the community, you'll also get to vote on workshop topics that are most important to you. 

DOWNLOADABLE GUIDES

Members get immediate access to my downloadable guides: Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist, and 5 Rules to Protect Your Sanity When Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD. Plus, you get a copy of Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent so you're ready when that time of year hits.

Q&A SESSIONS WITH TORIE

Ask me anything related to dealing with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder in these exclusive community Q&A sessions! Simply send me your question (or questions) in the box on our community home page and then attend LIVE or watch the recording when it works for your schedule to hear my thoughts! 

Bonus episodes of
you're not crazy podcast

Once a month, I post bonus episodes of the You're Not Crazy Podcast that are exclusively available to members of the Confident Boundaries Online Community. Do you prefer to listen to podcasts on Apple Podcasts? Great! There's a special RSS link for you.

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The Boundaries Roadmap Online Course

A step-by-step guide to setting boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissist personality disorder that is exclusively available to the members of the Confident Boundaries Online Community.

Feel Confident. Gain Clarity.

Protect Your Peace.

Setting boundaries with a parent who has borderline (BPD) or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can feel overwhelming—like you're walking on eggshells, constantly trying to avoid guilt, manipulation, and their anger at all costs. You might worry about saying the “wrong” thing, feel trapped in cycles of conflict, or wonder if boundaries will even work for you. That's exactly why I created The Boundaries Roadmap.

This self-guided, step-by-step course is designed to help you:

  • Understand why setting boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent feels so hard (and how to push past those mental blocks).

  •  Learn the exact strategies that will allow you to set boundaries without second-guessing yourself.

  • Prepare for common reactions and challenges so you don’t get pulled back into the chaos.

  • Protect your emotional energy while maintaining as much (or as little) contact as feels right for you.

When you join the Confident Boundaries Online Community you get instant access to this course!

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Join the Confident Boundaries Online Community

When you become a member you get instant access to...

  • The Boundaries Roadmap Online Course for setting boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent
  • Exclusive guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential Therapist & 5 Rules for Maintaining Your Sanity
  • Bonus episodes of the You're Not Crazy Podcast
  • Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
  • Live Workshops on topics like going no-contact and healing from dysfunctional family dynamics (recordings available to watch on your schedule)
  • A supportive space to connect, vent, and grow with others who truly understand
GET ACCESS NOW → $39/MONTH
OR SAVE MORE WITH AN ANNUAL SUBSCRIPTION → $429/YEAR

Make this the year you finally have the support and guidance you need to set boundaries and thrive!

YOU. CAN. DO. THIS.

The real question isn’t “Do I really need this?”—it’s “How much longer do I want to keep struggling on my own?”

You’re smart and capable—you’ve tried setting boundaries, staying calm, and reasoning with your BPD or NPD parent. But if willpower alone was enough, you wouldn’t still be stuck in this exhausting cycle. The good news is- you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

You can set boundaries with even the most challenging parents. You can learn how to prioritize yourself when it feels like the guilt will be unbearable. 

And FOR JUST $39/month, you could be starting your journey towards a more peaceful future right now.

This is your chance to break free from the toxic cycle and start living life on your terms.

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I'm Torie Wiksell

THERAPIST, COACH, & HOST OF THE PODCAST, YOU'RE NOT CRAZY.

In both my therapy private practice and coaching business, I specialize in working with the adult children of parents who have borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). I’ve spent a significant amount of my nearly 12 year career working with clients with personality disorders and focused the last several years on working with adults who have a parent with BPD or NPD.

I know how chaotic and stressful it is to grow up with a BPD or NPD parent because I grew up with a mother who had some fun (sarcasm) combination of borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. The phrase, walking on eggshells, definitely fits, but doesn’t fully explain the intensely complicated, stressful, and confusing dynamics.

You don't have to keep trying to do it alone- I’ve survived a dysfunctional family system, and I know you can survive yours too!

I'M READY TO DO THIS!
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What people are saying about Torie...

Someone who finally GETS IT!!! Torie gets it. I finally feel seen/heard/validated and then appropriately guided going through life with a parent who can frequently be quite a struggle to deal with. I’m SO excited to learn more from her as she continues to create episodes. 🫶🏻

YOU'RE NOT CRAZY PODCAST
APPLE PODCAST REVIEW

Life changing. Torie is incredible. This podcast has changed my life and I feel so not alone and not crazy !!! Amazing advice and feels like I'm in a therapy session without having to talk, and sometimes that's more helpful and calming. Thank you and Torie I know you are an amazing mom and thank you for being so vulnerable about your own story 🤍

YOU'RE NOT CRAZY PODCAST
APPLE PODCAST REVIEW

Finally feeling not crazy! Love this podcast and Torie is so easy to listen to. “As a parent it’s always about your child” YES YES YES.

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APPLE PODCAST REVIEW

So glad I found this podcast. Sometimes I feel like no one understands my situation and most information available is about romantic relationships. Thank you Torie for filling in the gap!

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Still Have Questions?

 

Join the Confident Boundaries Online Community

Confident Boundaries is the only online community devoted exclusively to supporting and connecting the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders that's run by the adult child of a parent with narcissistic personality disorder and BPD traits.

  • Immediate access to The Boundaries Roadmap, my step-by-step course for setting boundaries with BPD and NPD parents
  • Exclusive guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist & 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity
  • Bonus podcast episodes of You're Not Crazy & exclusive Q&As
  • Live trainings on topics like going no-contact and healing from dysfunctional family dynamics (and recordings to watch on your schedule!)
  • A supportive space to connect, vent, and grow with others who truly understand
JOIN THE CONFIDENT BOUNDARIES COMMUNITY FOR JUST $39/MONTH

WHAT ABOUT A GUARANTEE?

I'm confident (pun intended) this community will be a valuable resource in your healing journey.

But if you disagree, I will fully refund your membership fee within the first 14 days, no questions asked. Just email me at [email protected]m, and I'll take it from there.

MY LAST PIECE OF ADVICE

I know first hand how hard it is to be the cycle breaker in your family.

It's confusing and stressful and can make you doubt your own sanity at times. It's a path that can feel so incredibly lonely and daunting.

I’ve been there myself, and I don't want you to keep struggling alone. You are why I created this space. I can't wait to say "hi" and hear your story.