Hey there, Cycle Breaker! If you suspect (or know) that Your parent has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, You're in the right place.
You’re not too sensitive. You’re not the problem. And you don’t have to do it alone.
The Confident Boundaries Membership is the space for those who are done questioning their reality, tired of drowning in guilt, and finally ready to set boundaries that actually stick—without the shame spiral.
This is where you get the tools, support, and community to break the toxic cycle—for good.
It's so draining...
You try to set boundaries—but they never stick. Your parent pushes back, ignores them completely, or flips the script and makes you feel like the bad guy for even trying. No matter how carefully you explain things or how reasonable the boundary is, it always ends the same way: with you doubting yourself and feeling more and more hopeless.
I'm certainly no mind-reader, but I'm guessing you've found yourself:
- Replaying conversations in your head, blaming yourself for all the things that went wrong.
- Feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, nothing will ever change.
- Constantly searching for answers, hoping to find something—anything—that will help.
Of course you feel stuck, exhausted, and overwhelmed.
Dealing with a parent who constantly steamrolls your boundaries and blames you for everything that goes wrong would make anyone miserable.
But here’s the thing-You can change this dynamic, set boundaries, and take back control of your life—even if it feels impossible right now.
Imagine if...
- You had a place you could go to anytime your parent did something completely unhinged?
- You had a community of people cheering you on because they know how hard it is and want you to succeed?
- You didn't have to worry about sounding crazy or like you're being dramatic when you talk about the chaos?
- You finally had the validation and guidance you needed to confidently break the toxic cycle?
In the Confident Boundaries Membership, you can have all of this. And, you can have all of this starting right now.
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WHAT IF I TOLD YOU THAT It doesn't have to be this hard?
I've literally built my entire career around helping people navigate their dysfunctional family relationships and take back control of their lives.
And after years of learning how to navigate these challenges myself (did I mention I grew up with a narcissist mom?) and teaching my therapy and coaching clients how to do so as well, I’ve come to realize something- what most people who grew up with a BPD or NPD parent need is a supportive space where they can feel seen, understood, and guided through actionable strategies for setting boundaries with their parents.
Imagine a world where you could dramatically reduce the stress, the self-doubt, the emotional exhaustion...and actually break free from the cycle of guilt and confusion.
This membership is here to help you create that reality for yourself—providing you with the support and resources you need to confidently navigate through the chaos.
It's your one-stop shop for learning how to break the toxic cycle you grew up in plus you get the support and encouragement you'll need along the way.
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Most people don’t get it.
They don’t know what it’s like to be parentified, gaslit, and guilt-tripped by the parent who claims to love them more than anyone else in the world.
But I'm not most people.
I grew up with a parent who I believe had narcissistic personality disorder with a ton of BPD traits—and I know how confusing, lonely, and intense that can feel.
I Can also honestly tell you this:
You’re not too sensitive. You’re not imagining it. And you’re absolutely not the problem.
You're a Cycle Breaker—And you’ve just found your people.
Which is Why I'd love to invite you to the...
In the Confident Boundaries Membership, you’ll find the tools, support, and encouragement you need to confidently set boundaries with a BPD or NPD parent and break the toxic cycle you're stuck in.
You don't have to keep trying to figure it all out on your own.
YES, I NEED THISWhen you join the Confident Boundaries Membership:
- You'll become part of a community of cycle breakers who are working towards a healthier and more peaceful life.
- You'll finally see that you're not alone and the people in here really get it.
- You'll always know where to turn when you're second-guessing yourself and need some advice.
And you'll get access to a therapist and coach with over a decade of experience who grew up with a narcissist parent...for less than the price of a single therapy session each month!
HERE'S WHAT'S INSIDE:
All of This Is Waiting for You Right Now Inside the Membership!
Group Coaching
Every Monday from 2-3pm PST and Thursday from 12-1pm PST, Torie hosts a live group coaching session inside the membership. Come and get feedback on a challenge you're currently facing with your BPD or NPD parent or simply listen and learn from other members. Group coaching calls are not recorded.
Workshops
Join Torie in the community on the third Thursday of each month at 9am PST for a LIVE workshop on topics like: gaslighting, triangulation, boundaries, going no-contact, and more! Can't attend live? No problem! All workshops are recorded and available to watch on your schedule in the On-Demand Library.
Validation + Support
Connect with other cycle breakers who know what it's like to grow up with a BPD or NPD parent. Whether it's in the group coaching calls or the chats, you will find that everyone in here can relate to the chaos that for so long felt isolating. This is the place where other cycle breakers are rooting for you and know that you're not crazy.
on-demand library
As a member, you'll gain instant access to our exclusive library of on-demand videos, trainings, and worksheets, designed to help you start making meaningful changes as soon as you join! This is a growing library of resources that will continue to support you on your healing journey throughout the lifetime of your membership.
Bonus Episodes
All Confident Boundaries Members get access to two bonus episodes of the You're Not Crazy podcast each month plus the entire backlog of bonus episodes immediately after signing up. Bonus episodes go deeper into topics, share a behind-the-scenes peak at the podcast, and are a place where Torie shares more details about her own story.
24/7 access
Toxic parents don't seem to time their chaotic energy very well (like immediately before your next therapy session). Instead of having to wait a week (or a few weeks) to vent to your therapist- you can post in the group 24/7, look back at trainings and workshops for on-demand help, and remind yourself that you're not alone in this.
I just want to tell you about something that happened recently! I took your boundaries workshop and practiced the principle of being very upfront with my family about how I was going to interact them. So I went to this xxxxx (bpd xxxxx and enabling xxxxx) and I told them, before coming the the event, that my partner and I have to leave by this exact time. And it worked!!! Nobody was upset and shamed or guilted me, they were like totally okay with it because they knew the rules beforehand? And nobody tried to guilt me into staying longer?! It was such a revelation and a relief! 
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Setting Boundaries with a Parent You Suspect Has Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
The Confident Boundaries Membership
When you become a member, you'll get instant access to the support, encouragement, and guidance you need to set boundaries and thrive!
- Two weekly Group Coaching Calls with Torie
- A Monthly Workshop on topics like: gaslighting, guilt, and more!
- Access to the On-Demand Library with workshops, videos, and worksheets
- The ability to Chat with Other Cycle Breakers 24/7
- Two Bonus Episodes of the You're Not Crazy podcast each month
- Access to the Entire Backlog of You're Not Crazy Bonus Episodes
Join the membership with either a monthly or quarterly subscription and get started today for less than the cost of a single therapy session.
YOU. CAN. DO. THIS.
Set Boundaries With Confidence
The real question isn’t “Do I really need this?”—it’s “How much longer do I want to keep struggling on my own?”
You’re smart and capable—you’ve tried setting boundaries, staying calm, and reasoning with your BPD or NPD parent. But if willpower alone was enough, you wouldn’t still be stuck here in this exhausting cycle.
The good news is- you don’t have to figure this out on your own!
You can set boundaries with even the most challenging parents. You can learn how to prioritize yourself even when it feels like the guilt will be unbearable.
you can have the more peaceful life you dream of- even if your parent never changes.
Hi! I'm Torie Wiksell.
THERAPIST, COACH, & HOST OF THE PODCAST, YOU'RE NOT CRAZY.
I specialize in working with the adult children of parents who have borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). I’ve spent the majority of my 12 year career working with clients with personality disorders, their partners, and family members.
I also personally know how chaotic and stressful it is to grow up with a BPD or NPD parent because I grew up with a mother who had some fun (sarcasm) combination of both. The phrase, walking on eggshells, definitely fits, but doesn’t fully explain the intensely complicated, stressful, and confusing dynamics.
I know it feels impossible, but I promise you it's not- I’ve survived a dysfunctional family system, and I know you can survive yours too.
When you're ready to do this, I'm ready to help.
"Life changing. Torie is incredible."
This podcast has changed my life and I feel so not alone and not crazy !!! Amazing advice and feels like I'm in a therapy session without having to talk, and sometimes that's more helpful and calming. Thank you and Torie I know you are an amazing mom and thank you for being so vulnerable about your own story 🤍
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What's Inside the Membership
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Group Coaching Sessions
Every Monday from 2-3pm PST and Thursday from 12-1pm PST, therapist and coach, Torie Wiksell, hosts a live group coaching session inside the membership. Get feedback on a challenge you're currently facing with your BPD or NPD parent—or simply listen in and learn. Watching others navigate their own complicated family dynamics can give you the clarity, validation, and tools you didn’t even know you needed.
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Support + Connection
Connect with other cycle breakers who truly get it—people who are also learning how to set boundaries with their BPD or NPD parents, break toxic family patterns, and heal from the chaos. You might be the black sheep in your family, but you’ll never be the black sheep here. Inside the Confident Boundaries Membership, you’ll find a community that sees you, supports you, and is cheering you on every step of the way.
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Monthly Workshop
Join Torie in the community on the third Thursday of each month at 9am PST for a LIVE workshop on topics like: gaslighting, triangulation, boundaries, going no-contact, and more. Can't attend live? No problem! All Workshops are recorded and posted in the On-Demand Library. Watch the Workshop on your schedule, when it works for you.
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On-Demand Library
As soon as you join, you’ll unlock instant access to our exclusive library of on-demand videos, trainings, and worksheets—designed to help you start making real, lasting changes right away. This growing collection of resources will continue to support you throughout your healing journey, giving you the tools and guidance you need for every step of the road ahead.
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Bonus Podcast Episodes
Your membership includes two brand-new bonus episodes of the You're Not Crazy podcast every month—plus instant access to the entire archive of past bonus episodes the moment you join. It’s everything you didn’t know you needed to feel seen, supported, and a little less alone.
What people are saying about Torie...
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SIGN UP NOWDo You Still Have Questions?
Who is this membership for?
Do I really need this Membership?
Can I get support even if I’m low-contact or no-contact with my parent?
What exactly do I get when I join the membership?
Do I have to speak or share in the coaching calls?
Are the coaching calls recorded?
How much time do I need to commit each week?
Is this a replacement for therapy?
Who shouldn't join this Membership?
What's your refund policy?
The Confident Boundaries Membership
When you become a member, you'll get instant access to the support, encouragement, and guidance you need to set boundaries and thrive!
- Two weekly Group Coaching Calls with Torie
- A Monthly Workshop on topics like: gaslighting, guilt, and more!
- Access to the On-Demand Library with workshops, videos, and worksheets
- The ability to Chat with Other Cycle Breakers 24/7
- Two Bonus Episodes of the You're Not Crazy podcast each month
- Access to the Entire Backlog of You're Not Crazy Bonus Episodes
WHAT ABOUT A GUARANTEE?
I'm confident (pun intended) this membership will be a valuable resource in your healing journey.
But if you disagree, I will fully refund your membership fee within the first 14 days, no strings attached. Just email me at [email protected], and I'll take it from there.
A Few Final Thoughts...
I know first hand how hard it is to be the cycle breaker in your family.
It's confusing and stressful and can make you doubt your own sanity at times. It's a path that can feel so incredibly lonely and daunting.
I’ve been there myself, and I don't want you to keep struggling alone. You are why I created this space. I can't wait to say "hi" and hear your story.
