You can see exactly what your parent is doing, but you still get pulled back in every time.
You've read the books, can name the gaslighting, and you can now see the manipulation for what it is. But then your mom calls or your dad sends a text and your whole body jumps right back into survival mode.
The missing piece is learning how to do something different in the moment. How to deal with the self-doubt that comes up every time you set a boundary. How to make choices that prioritize your emotional wellbeing when you feel like you're going to drown in guilt.
That's what you'll learn inside the Vault.
SOUND FAMILIAR?
You might be in the right place if…
Understanding isn't the same as change.
You can keep doing what you're doing. A lot of people do. You read another book, screenshot another Instagram post, and feel understood for an afternoon.
But you can't think your way out of a pattern your nervous system learned before you had words for it. If insight alone fixed this, it'd already be fixed.
So, the cycle continues:
- Another year of bracing for the fallouts.
- Another year of being the one who holds it all together while quietly running on empty.
- Another year of doubting yourself.
The cost of staying stuck in this cycle is a slow and painful one.
This isn't a you problem. And it isn't a willpower problem.
The problem is no one has ever taught you what it looks like to:
1. Feel guilt without completely backtracking on your boundaries and sacrificing yourself.
2. Let your parent be upset without rushing in to fix it.
3. Stay outside the emotional tornado instead of getting sucked into it.
4. Tell the difference between "this is dangerous" and "this is just uncomfortable," because growing up, those were the same thing.
These are skills that can be taught.
It's not magic. It's not impossible. And, it's exactly what you'll find inside The Cycle Breaker's Vault.
What makes this different from everything you've already tried:
Where most content stops
Most content about parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorder traits stops at describing the problem.
But you already know the problem.
Where the Vault begins
It's built around what comes after the realization. The actual moves that help you get unstuck:
→ What to do when your parent completely rewrites history.
→ What to physically do with the guilt that feels unbearable.
→ How to set a boundary that's more likely to hold with someone highly reactive and short on empathy.
These are tools to help you feel empowered to navigate the situation with your entire family system and look at your family dynamic with clarity instead of panic.
A library of focused trainings plus tools to help you implement the skills in your actual life.
Boundaries That Stick
How to set a boundary with a reactive parent in a way that's actually effective. A plan for what to do, what to avoid, and why.
Gaslighting Unmasked
How to spot gaslighting in real time, deal with it in the moment, and start rebuilding trust in your own judgment.
Stop Getting Pulled Into Your Parent's Chaos
Why their emergency keeps becoming your emergency and how to step outside the emotional tornado.
Reconnecting With Your Intuition
Unpacking why you learned to override your own feelings and needs and steps for rebuilding that connection.
Grief for Cycle Breakers
Navigating the unique challenges of grieving the parent you needed but didn't have.
Plus the practical tools you'll keep coming back to: The Circle Exercise, a values-clarification workbook, and a cost-benefit framework for making what feel like impossible decisions.
6 Modules | 20+ Lessons | Video Workshops | Self‑Paced | Lifetime Access
SO WE'RE CLEAR
What the Vault is, and what it isn't.
The Vault is
Therapist-created education and skills you can start using right away, drawn from the same work Torie does with clients and from her own personal journey of healing.
The Vault is not
Therapy, a diagnosis, a replacement for treatment, or a promise that your parent will change. It won't make your guilt disappear. What it will do is teach you what to do with the guilt so it stops running the show.
If you're in crisis or need mental health support, this isn't a substitute for a therapist.
To get immediate crisis support, instead contact the crisis line by texting or calling "988."
This is for you if…
It's probably not for you if…
Torie Wiksell.
Torie is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience, and the host of the You're Not Crazy podcast. Her work focuses specifically on supporting adults who grew up with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.
A cycle breaker herself, Torie grew up with a mom who had plenty of narcissistic and borderline traits. She knows firsthand how isolating this experience can be, and how hard it is to find information focused on supporting the adult children who are trying to heal from these complicated dynamics.
People who've worked with Torie.
Hear from actual humans about their experience with Torie's coaching and podcast.
The Cycle Breaker's Vault
One course. Two ways to pay.
Both options unlock the entire Vault. Same workshops, same worksheets, same lifetime access.
