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Join the Confident Boundaries Membership

Exclusively dedicated to supporting and connecting adults with toxic parents.

Included in your Confident Boundaries Membership:

  • Private Chat where you can connect, vent, and grow with other cycle breakers who are on a similar path 
  • Monthly Workshops on topics like gaslighting, dealing with guilt, and healing from dysfunctional family dynamics
  • Access to Two Weekly Group Coaching Sessions led by Torie on Mondays at 2pm PT and Thursdays at 12pm PT
  • Membership On-Demand Library of supportive and informational resources to help you break the cycle (including the AI tool, The Boundaries Helper GPT)

What current members have to say:

"It's SUUUCH a lifeline for me."

"This program has been a life changer. I have found a community and a name for what has been happening to me all of these years. Its the best gift I have given myself and is affordable as well."

"Mom has NPD with BPD tendencies, dad the enabler, and a trauma-ridden upbringing. I’ve been in therapy for over a decade and Torie is a standout of how “on it” she is re this population (be it the adult children, or the parents). I did one of the workshops on her site and got a lot out of it. Torie’s work is fresh, direct, and helpful. I also joined the online community and support groups. Thank you Torie for all of these resources to help me (and others) feel less alone."

 

What's Waiting Inside the Member Library...

  1. Start Here

    3 lessons
    1. Welcome to the Membership
    2. How to Use the Library + Attend Live Coaching
    3. Meet the Boundaries Helper GPT+ (24/7 Support Tool)

  2. Understanding Your Family Patterns

    4 lessons
    1. Is My Parent the Problem or Am I?
    2. What It Looks Like to Have a Parent with Narcissistic, Borderline, or Histrionic Traits
    3. What It Looks Like to Be Your Family’s Scapegoat
    4. Why It’s So Hard to Set Boundaries with Your Family

  3. Setting Boundaries That Stick

    6 lessons
    1. How to Set Boundaries That Stick (The Workshop)
    2. Clearly Defining Your Boundary (Worksheet)
    3. Preparing Yourself to Set the Boundary (Video Lesson)
    4. Radical Acceptance is the Key to Change
    5. The Checklist: How to Know if You're Ready to Set Your Boundary
    6. 10 Mistakes You're Making That Will Sabotage Your Boundaries

  4. When Your Toxic Parent Pushes Back

    4 lessons
    1. They Don’t Have to Agree with Your Boundary
    2. Enforcing Boundaries with a Toxic Parent
    3. Enforcing Your Boundary: The Cheatsheet
    4. The Circle Exercise Worksheet

  5. Handling Manipulation & Emotional Pressure

    3 lessons
    1. Breaking Free From Guilt (March 2025)
    2. Gaslighting (February 2025)
    3. Always Refuse to Fight with Them

  6. Creating Distance (Low-Contact or No-Contact Support)

    2 lessons
    1. How to Make a Difficult Decision
    2. There Is No "Perfect" Option- Here's How to Make a Good Decision Anyway

  7. Quick Help & Scripts (And The Boundaries Helper GPT+)

    4 lessons
    1. The Boundaries Helper GPT+
    2. Boundaries Examples
    3. Boundaries Cheatsheet (Scripts)
    4. When People Ask About Your Family

  8. Breaking the Cycle: Learning How to be an Emotionally Healthy Adult

    2 lessons
    1. Anger Feels Scary: Let's Talk About It
    2. Getting In Touch with Your Emotions

  9. Surviving the Holidays

    3 lessons
    1. Surviving the Holidays with a Toxic Parent (Downloadable Guide)
    2. Your Holiday, Your Rules: Designing a Season You Don’t Dread
    3. Surviving Toxic Family Gatherings: Your Holiday Game Plan

  10. Monthly Workshop Replays

    9 lessons
    1. Dealing with Flying Monkeys (October 2025)
    2. Unspoken Grief (September 2025)
    3. Raised to Be the Fixer (August 2025)
    4. Ditching the Drama (July 2025)
    5. Reclaiming Your Identity (June 2025)
    6. Radical Acceptance (May 2025)
    7. Tools for Calming Down (April 2025)
    8. Breaking Free From Guilt (March 2025)
    9. Gaslighting (February 2025)