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Join the Confident Boundaries Membership

Exclusively dedicated to supporting and connecting adults with toxic parents.

Included in your Confident Boundaries Membership:

  • Private Chat where you can connect, vent, and grow with other cycle breakers who are on a similar path 
  • Monthly Workshops on topics like gaslighting, dealing with guilt, and healing from dysfunctional family dynamics
  • Access to Two Weekly Group Coaching Sessions led by Torie on Mondays at 2pm PT and Thursdays at 12pm PT
  • Membership On-Demand Library of supportive and informational resources to help you break the cycle (including the AI tool, The Boundaries Helper GPT)

What current members have to say:

"It's SUUUCH a lifeline for me."

"This program has been a life changer. I have found a community and a name for what has been happening to me all of these years. Its the best gift I have given myself and is affordable as well."

"Mom has NPD with BPD tendencies, dad the enabler, and a trauma-ridden upbringing. I’ve been in therapy for over a decade and Torie is a standout of how “on it” she is re this population (be it the adult children, or the parents). I did one of the workshops on her site and got a lot out of it. Torie’s work is fresh, direct, and helpful. I also joined the online community and support groups. Thank you Torie for all of these resources to help me (and others) feel less alone."

 

What's Waiting Inside the Member Library...

  1. Start Here

    3 lessons
    1. Welcome to the Membership
    2. How to Use the Library + Attend Live Coaching
    3. Meet the Boundaries Helper GPT+ (24/7 Support Tool)

  2. Confident Boundaries with Toxic Parents Online Course

    13 lessons

    1. Understanding Toxic Family Dynamics

      1. It's Not Just an Issue with Your Toxic Parent
      2. The Cycle Breaker and The Family Scapegoat

    2. Setting Boundaries That Stick with Toxic Parents

      1. The Boundary Framework
      2. Radical Acceptance (The Workshop)
      3. How to Set Boundaries with Toxic Parents (The Workshop)
      4. Clarifying Your Own Value System
      5. 10 Mistakes You're Making That Will Sabotage Your Boundaries

    3. When Your Toxic Parent Pushes Back

      1. They Don’t Have to Agree with Your Boundary in Order to Respect It
      2. Enforcing Boundaries with a Toxic Parent
      3. The Circle Exercise Worksheet

    4. Handling Manipulation

      1. Dealing with Manipulation From Your Toxic Parent
      2. How to Handle Guilt-Tripping From a Toxic Parent
      3. Gaslighting: How to Spot It, Stop It, and Rebuild Your Confidence

  3. Understanding Your Toxic Family Patterns

    4 lessons
    1. Is My Parent the Problem or Am I?
    2. What It Looks Like to Have a Parent with Narcissistic, Borderline, or Histrionic Traits
    3. What It Looks Like to Be Your Family’s Scapegoat
    4. Why It’s So Hard to Set Boundaries with Your Family

  4. Quick Help & Scripts (And The Boundaries Helper GPT+)

    4 lessons
    1. The Boundaries Helper GPT+
    2. Boundaries Examples
    3. Boundaries Cheatsheet (Scripts)
    4. When People Ask About Your Family

  5. Creating Distance (Low-Contact or No-Contact Support)

    2 lessons
    1. How to Make a Difficult Decision
    2. There Is No "Perfect" Option- Here's How to Make a Good Decision Anyway

  6. Breaking the Cycle: Learning How to be an Emotionally Healthy Adult

    3 lessons
    1. Anger Feels Scary: Let's Talk About It
    2. Getting In Touch with Your Emotions
    3. Getting Clarity Around Your Own Values

  7. Surviving the Holidays

    3 lessons
    1. Surviving the Holidays with a Toxic Parent (Downloadable Guide)
    2. Your Holiday, Your Rules: Designing a Season You Don’t Dread
    3. Surviving Toxic Family Gatherings: Your Holiday Game Plan

  8. Monthly Workshop Replays

    10 lessons
    1. Holiday Self-Care for Cycle Breakers (December 2025)
    2. Dealing with Flying Monkeys (October 2025)
    3. Unspoken Grief (September 2025)
    4. Raised to Be the Fixer (August 2025)
    5. Ditching the Drama (July 2025)
    6. Reclaiming Your Identity (June 2025)
    7. Radical Acceptance (May 2025)
    8. Tools for Calming Down (April 2025)
    9. How to Handle Guilt-Tripping From a Toxic Parent (March 2025)
    10. Gaslighting: How to Spot It, Stop It, and Rebuild Your Confidence (February 2025)